“To treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping is to consider what would be truly good for you. It is not “what you want” or “what would make you happy”. Everytime you give a child something sweet, you make that child happy. But you must help a child become virtuous, responsible, awake being—capable of full reciprocity—able to take care of himself and others, and to thrive while doing so. Why would you think it acceptable to do anything less for yourself?”